ÒSHÍ KÒDA NÍ ILẸ̀ PÁKÓ - MATTERS ARISING.
I was jejely on my own yesterday when the Omoge Saida video dropped into my inbox. I didn't ask for it and I am surely not excited about such things.
I infact usually get irritated by it and this is the reason I now wish it is possible for me to "unwatch" the video and get it out of my memory.
The lady is just an idiot and nuisance.
But it brought something to my mind as I saw the first few seconds of it. My mind went straight to the popular saying of our Elders in Yoruba land.
Òshí kòda ní ilé pákó.
Our Elders are really wise, it is foolish of us to think we are more knowledgeable than them.
ÒSHÌ is a loose term for describing something dirty, nonsensical, unworthy, stupid, disgusting etc.
ILÉ is house.
PÁKÓ is wood.
ILÉ PÁKÓ is a house built from wood, a kind of makeshift house, the types you will find in abundance in places Mokoko and other ghettos.
So a man goes into such a house and be making love to a woman, even his own wife, then the noise from the struggling jointed woods of their house will be going about reverberating around the surrounding neighbours houses and everyone will know what they were doing in the room.
The noise from that particular activity is rhythmic and easily recognisable.
So our Elders say, when you want to do "Òshì" it doesn't make sense to do it in Pákó houses because what you are doing is supposed to be a solemn activity that should be in secret.
In that simple saying our Elders more or less described s€x as Òshì.
Unfortunately the lesson is lost on our people and we now just use that saying very loosely, not understanding the message encoded therein.
Do you know that in the times of our fathers, s€x was almost exclusively for procreation?
It was just to make babies.
It was an activity more commonly done in the night and in the dark or under heavy sheets such that the man and woman barely saw each other let alone their organs.
In those days, the women won't even sleep in the husband's bed because after the show she will get up to return to her room where she will sleep.
The men and women of those days didn't think of s€x as something of worldly pleasure. Whatever pleasure in it was for a few fleeting seconds anyway.
So how did such a thing become an issue today?
Todays youths make s€x look like it is the passport to heaven and their lives depended on therefore the girls too see s€x as a weapon of control and negotiation.
Indiscipline.
Women want to dress naked, expose their breasts, Tommies and everywhere in the hope that it gets to men.
© Adedamola Adetayo
29 October 2025
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